YOU: before and after. Who are you now?
Who are you now? Who have you become, as a result of all the confinement, fear-mongering and restrictions? And who do you want to be? Are they one and the same?Are you a better, wiser, more conscious person than before, or are you less than you were? Have you been diminished by this or have […]
Continue readingMoving forward: our healthy gateway (not the Gates way)
We are experiencing a time of extreme challenges. It is a test of our humanity, our faith in self and our capacity to distinguish between sophisticated spin and the simple truth. We can succumb and be weakened by fear and a sense of powerlessness, or we can stand strong, knowing we can make a difference […]
Continue readingWill you be kicking yourself?
Lately, I’ve been kicking myself a lot. I don’t normally recommend this, as it can be bad for self-esteem, but I’ve been doing it 100 times a day or more, for the past two months, and it feels surprisingly good.I lie on the bed on my back, put my legs up in the air at […]
Continue readingFriendship: sharing and repairing our lives
My best friend just happens to be my sister. On the other hand, maybe it’s because she’s my sister that she’s my best friend. We often take liberties with family that we might not take with friends, which can be good or bad, depending on how we relate and how self-aware we are. This got […]
Continue readingI’m just a baggage-handler…
At last. After months of planning, saving and working overtime, you’re finally doing it—going to Thailand to explore the exotic Asian culture, ride in rickshaws, and eat some really good Pad Thai. As your plane prepares to land, you pull out your notebook to check your plans for Day 1. But when you get to […]
Continue readingAre you a Smartass?
A new kind of relationship dynamic may be coming soon to a Smart phone near you: e-divorce. But it’s not about getting a divorce online; it’s about having to get a divorce because you’re online—constantly checking e-mails, sending texts, updating your Facebook account—and, in the process, losing any kind of meaningful connection with your partner. […]
Continue readingIs helping others really helping?
I was once contacted by a woman who felt horribly trapped in her marriage: her husband had developed emphysema due to a lifetime of smoking cigarettes, and her own life had ground to a halt as she increasingly assumed a caretaking role. She was emotionally unable to break free as she had been taught to […]
Continue readingFind your wild side…
Have YOU ever interviewed a fly? What about a park bench, a peanut or a toilet? A boomerang, maybe? How about a bar of chocolate…? If not, you’re in for a treat, and a whole new world of wonder, guaranteed to get you thinking—and laughing—while expanding your take on life. I’ve always had a mind full of […]
Continue readingStuck in a power struggle with yourself?
As a coach and counsellor, I’m privileged to work with some wonderful high-powered businessmen (and -women). Yet the men, particularly, often resist their power so strongly that it can sometimes be hard to break through. They’re used to being in charge and to making things work. After all, for better or for worse, they’ve been […]
Continue readingBeyond the demi-truths of our dysfunction
When Demi Moore spoke about her fear of being unlovable and how betrayed she felt by her body, she got people’s attention (The Vancouver Sun, 5 January 2012). Women all over the globe were nodding in sympathy and agreement, knowing exactly how she felt because that’s how they felt too. Some felt relieved because it meant […]
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