Medical bullying: is your doctor making you sicker?
Visit any busy doctor’s waiting room and check out the vibe. Can you detect the almost palpable excitement among those patiently waiting—an electric anticipation of the soon-to-be-dispensed medical compassion, enlightenment and blessed relief from whatever ails them? Can you sense their certainty that all will soon be well? While you might catch a whiff of […]
Continue readingAre you a Smartass?
A new kind of relationship dynamic may be coming soon to a Smart phone near you: e-divorce. But it’s not about getting a divorce online; it’s about having to get a divorce because you’re online—constantly checking e-mails, sending texts, updating your Facebook account—and, in the process, losing any kind of meaningful connection with your partner. […]
Continue readingIs helping others really helping?
I was once contacted by a woman who felt horribly trapped in her marriage: her husband had developed emphysema due to a lifetime of smoking cigarettes, and her own life had ground to a halt as she increasingly assumed a caretaking role. She was emotionally unable to break free as she had been taught to […]
Continue readingToxic-parenting purge [Part 2]
Toxic-parenting purge [Part 2] Resolving emotional pain can be serious stuff. If you have personal issues from your early years, you may find it exhausting – not to mention expensive – to address them effectively. And if you’ve suffered abuse in your upbringing, it may be depressingly difficult to break free from the frustration, anger […]
Continue readingTime for a toxic-parenting purge? [Part 1]
Parenting is a tough task. Perfect parenting is an impossible one. But most parents do a phenomenal job of caring for their children, while holding down a job (or two), remembering everyone’s birthday and making order out of chaos. There are some, though, whose unresolved issues and emotional pain from their own upbringing result in […]
Continue readingRighteously religious …or mightily misguided?
A young woman called Lola contacted me recently for help with a religious dilemma. She was a ‘non-practising Catholic’ and desperately wanted to marry her ex-boyfriend, who happened to be a Jew. They had broken up because of the religious mis-match and she wanted help in trying to win him back. Lola was willing to […]
Continue readingUS reality check: the president is NOT the problem
Why is President Obama being attacked from all sides, after such a positive start to his presidency? Why has he failed to make the difference that he initially seemed so capable of making? His apparent failure is part of an ongoing cycle that is never going to change unless we realize what’s really driving the […]
Continue readingIt’s for the birds…
We could learn a thing or two from birds—the feathered variety. They’re up at the crack of dawn every day, singing their little hearts out, and never worrying about where the next worm is coming from. They’re not moody and they don’t get depressed when it’s raining. (I’ve never seen a bird sulk—have you?) They […]
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